I am sure I am not the only one who has ever wondered, “Why do guys cheat and come back?”
It’s a question that has been asked time and again, but there is no definitive answer that will satisfy everyone.
Some people believe it is due to a lack of commitment or emotional maturity, while others simply think it’s because men are unable to stay faithful in relationships.
Whatever the reason may be, one thing I can say is that they have probably tasted the other side and realized that the relationship was worth fighting for.
It may also be a sign that your partner values you and wants to try again.
In any case, it is important to remember that no matter why someone decides to cheat, cheating is still wrong.
If your partner has returned after cheating, it doesn’t mean that everything will suddenly be perfect again.
There are so many things to sort out with their return as well as set so many records straight if you intend to take them back.
This clarity will be the guidelines and rock of the relationship as well as preventing similar issues from occurring in the future.
Of course, there is a place for rebuilding trust where the relationship was broken, but that is ultimately up to you and your partner to decide if it is worth giving the try.
6 Real Reasons Why Guys Cheat And Come Back
1. Because They Still Love You
If their return is genuine, it could be because they still love you and are simply trying to find the right way to make things work between you.
Though it may be hard to believe if your partner still loves you, that could be a strong reason why they cheated but then decided to return.
After all, love can make us do crazy things and take risks.
So if your partner still loves you, they may feel guilty for their infidelity and end up coming back to you as a way of seeking redemption.
Ultimately it comes down to one question: Do they really love you enough to work through the infidelity together?
If the answer is yes, then they might come back ready to start again fresh.
Deep down, they understand the significance of your bond and are ready to do whatever it takes to rebuild and strengthen it.
And you know what?
It says a lot about their commitment and the potential for growth and healing in your partnership.
The power is in your hands to make things right.
2. They Didn’t Get What They Were Looking For
When dissatisfaction becomes a man’s character, he will believe the land is greener on the other side, not until he has gone to confirm.
Guys may always return after cheating because they have gone and seen but could not conquer, so they crawl back in disappointment.
They didn’t get what they were looking for.
Some guys may be looking for a lady who is more understanding or more beautiful, only to find out that the lady they thought would meet those expectations is fake and probably crazy.
So they would rather swallow the regrets of their actions, apologize, and come back running like the prodigal son to their girlfriend after cheating on her with the so-called perfect girl.
3. They Want To Insult Your Feelings Again
It takes a wise man to recognize a queen because just as not all heroes wear capes, many queens do not wear visible crowns.
Playboys, guys who do not know what they want or are looking for, and the ones driven by the craze of youth will sneak into a lady’s heart for wrong, selfish reasons, not minding if she’s hurt.
Some guys may come back after cheating on you because your level of vulnerability is known to them.
So they abuse your love knowing you will definitely take them back.
Don’t be fooled by their sweet words and fake promises; it’s time to take a stand.
Such guys are not coming back for anything good, and neither will they change.
They take you as an easy game where they can do whatever they want, knowing you love them too much not to forgive.
They come back not because they regretfully want to fix things but because they know you will take them back anyway.
Love yourself enough, stand tall and proud, and be confident in your worth as a woman because you deserve the best.
You are worthy of love and respect from someone who truly values you, not these insincere heartbreakers who only want to insult your feelings again.
4. They Are Unsure Of What They Want
Another reason why some guys come back after cheating is because they are unsure of what they want.
Maybe they have found someone new, but the feelings weren’t there, so they return to you in hopes of finding love again.
They may not understand why and what’s going on or how their feelings ended up this way.
It could be a case of them doing some soul-searching, or maybe they just don’t know what it is that they want in life.
Either way, it can be difficult for someone to figure out why they keep ending up with you when it’s clear that their emotions are elsewhere.
No matter the reason, if your partner keeps coming back after cheating, it’s best to have a serious conversation about what they want and how this could affect your relationship.
It may be hard to have an open and honest conversation, but it’s the only way to figure out if your partner really wants to make your relationship work or if they just want a convenient person who will always take them back.
Take some time for yourself and think about what you want from this relationship.
Once you have a better understanding of where you stand, then decide if it’s something you’re willing to work on or if it’s time for you both to move on.
No matter what, remember that it’s okay to want more and not settle for less than what you deserve.
If your partner cannot give you the love and respect you need, then don’t be afraid or ashamed to find someone who can.
5. They Are Regretful And Don’t Want To Lose You
Although some guys may come back after cheating on you for many wrong reasons, there are also a few good reasons why some guys do so.
One is that guys may come back to their girlfriends after cheating because they acknowledge their mistakes and want to right their wrongs.
It could also be that he was a victim and never wanted to cheat
Do you know that peer pressure is one of the major causes of cheating and infidelity?
Yes, it is.
And that’s why some guys come back to their girlfriends after cheating on her because it wasn’t a deliberate act.
But they were deeply pressured or maybe set up — you know how silly friends can go the extra mile.
So Mr. Boyfriend was put in a tight corner, and the mistake happened; however, he loves his girlfriend and is back for a fix.
So they come back running to where their heart has always been, regretful and repentant because losing her is not an option.
6. They Realized What They Let Go Of
Sometimes in life, we don’t realize what we have until it’s gone or taken away from us.
It is possible that after the cheating experience, your partner may recognize how much they gave up for something that didn’t mean anything at the end of the day.
They may have left behind a loving, committed relationship with someone who truly cares about them, and now they understand just how special and valuable it is.
They might be willing to put in effort to make it right again.
This could be a great opportunity to reevaluate the relationship and make sure that it’s even stronger than before.
It could also be a chance for reflection on what went wrong in order to ensure that they don’t make any similar mistakes down the line.
Either way, it is important to focus on the positive aspects of the situation and keep an open mind when it comes to resolving issues.
Conclusion:
Love is respectful and encourages respect and value for others.
And I believe cheating on a partner should equal murder because why not?
You broke the person’s heart, trust, and whatever commitments or promises bind you, whether married or dating.
So irrespective of how considerate and loving you are, never let any guy abuse your heart and devotion to him.
Forgiveness accompanies a change of ways, a second chance, and the sincerity to do better.
While you may consider offering him forgiveness, he, on the other hand, should be offering the latter.
Whether he cheated mistakenly or ignorantly, and wants you back for any reason, including the ones listed above, then he should double the effort to do better and ensure it doesn’t happen again.
And when this is not promised, remember you deserve consistency and respect, so feel free to walk away from situations that don’t provide what you genuinely deserve; it’s toxic.
However, I hope your love overcomes all and is beautiful at last.