Emma and Luke had been married for five years before she started having that weird little feeling that something wasn’t right, even though she didn’t know what it was.
Luke was the source of that feeling of disquiet.
He had never looked emotionally distant from her in their five years of marriage until recently.
“Funny” how the genesis of this coincided with his meeting a new client who had gradually become a friend.
She was very attractive confident, and looked like a woman on top of her world.
But this wasn’t the reason for Emma’s unrest.
Luke was beginning to spend a lot of time away from home, and when he was at home, he didn’t seem himself.
He could never seem to stop talking about his client and how confident she was.
The worst hit came when he began to criticize everything Emma did.
The whole issue boiled down to one solid fact: she couldn’t do anything right in Luke’s sight because he had a mountainously massive crush on another woman.
Can you relate to Emma’s predicament?
Then read on.
When teens crush, it’s so innocent they most likely get over it quickly.
However, when married men crush, it may lead to many dangerous consequences for the marriage.
In case you are wondering how to spot the signs that your husband has a crush on another woman, here are some ten signs to look out for;
10 Signs Your Husband Has A Crush On Another Woman
1. He is always busy
You may have noticed that your husband has made it a habit to stay late at work or spend weekends out of town, meeting with clients.
This may be true.
Although, they are also, sadly, the typical coverup for infidelity.
You won’t know if he is swamped at work if you don’t try to discuss it with him.
Talk to him about his perpetual busyness and how it affects your relationship.
The fact is that if a man loves a woman, he makes an effort to spend quality time with her.
And when he doesn’t spend quality time with her, in that case, she understands that it was probably due to situations beyond his control.
2. He becomes distant
You can’t decide your husband has a crush on another woman because he is exceptionally busy with work.
Emotional distance and a hectic schedule have a way of enabling your “Is he cheating?” antenna to work overtime.
See, marriage is an intimate union that requires two people to unite and become one.
When your husband who promised to be one with you, becomes emotionally withdrawn and distant from you, it may be due to several factors, and none of them bodes well for your relationship.
And when he has a crush on another woman, there is usually a dangerous shift in his affection.
Even his wife can tell that something’s not right.
His cold, curt, and sometimes evasive responses give him away.
Combined with his busyness, he may even reduce the way he answers your calls when he is away and spend time isolated from you when he is around.
To add salt to injury, you may notice that he avoids you or is cold during lovemaking.
All in all, he is with you physically, but he is not exactly with you.
3. He is always on his phone
His phone is always with him, even while he is taking a shower.
This is not a sign you can solely depend on, as he may just be reading the newspapers, watching videos on social media, playing games, or tracking the stock market.
But you need to worry when he seems to be getting calls and text messages that he seems determined to keep away from you.
Even when discussing important matters with him, he finds it hard to keep his gaze off his phone screen because he is constantly chatting with someone else.
In this case, you should ask him for the person’s identity casually whenever he receives a call that he is determined to pick up privately.
If the calls are just innocent ones, he will answer you honestly.
If his response is suspicious, this may be a sign that your husband has a crush on another woman.
4. He is too conscious of his appearance
This is not a surefire sign because many married men naturally are conscious of their appearance and always attempt to look good.
However, it is possible that your husband naturally doesn’t take so much notice of his appearance.
If he usually wears the first thing he lays hands on when he opens the closet but has been spending a lot of time choosing what to wear lately, it is a sign that he may be trying to impress someone.
If he constantly complains about the hairstyles that suit him best and picks out the right colognes, that’s even more confirmation.
If this is the case, you need to find out what’s motivating him to make the effort.
If he isn’t doing it because of you, then this is a possible sign that your husband has a crush on another woman.
5. He is defensive
This is another vital sign that your husband has a crush on another woman.
According to psychologists, the fact that he gets defensive every time you ask him questions is a sign of guilt.
If you realize that making inquiries about his work, callers’ identity, or friends’ welfare makes him angry and defensive, it may be a sign that he is attempting to hide something.
And that “something” may be a crush on another woman.
6. He always talks about her
It is funny how many women believe the opposite, but most men wear their hearts on their sleeves.
When they like a person, they always find ways to mention them in their conversations.
They do this without even realizing what they are doing, regularly bringing up the woman’s name and always talking about her in positively glowing terms.
If he frequently mentions a woman’s name in your conversations, take note because he may just be mentioning the name of your major competitor.
7. He becomes critical of you
A sign that your husband’s affection may have shifted to another woman is the fact that he seems only to notice negative things about you.
If your husband suddenly begins to notice only your flaws and criticize you, it may be a sign that he has a crush on another woman.
When he begins the fault-finding, and you can’t seem to do anything to please him, be rest assured that there’s a woman somewhere that he is attracted to.
When you think it can’t get worse, it worsens when he compares you with other people, especially other people’s wives or even the particular lady he is crushing on.
If you are going through this, I can’t begin to imagine your hurt and pain.
However, you should try your best to guard your self-esteem.
Never let the criticisms reduce your sense of self-worth.
When a man begins to behave this way, he probably has a crush on another woman and wants you to be like her.
Does it mean there is something wrong with you?
No, it doesn’t even mean there’s anything wrong with you.
It is just a guilt-evading mechanism that your husband has deployed to justify his crush on another woman.
8. He questions your love and loyalty
If you suddenly start receiving accusations of cheating from your husband, it is a sign that all is not well.
The fact is guilt can make someone question their partner’s love and faithfulness.
Regardless of whether he has a crush on another woman, accusing you of cheating without proof is a worrying sign.
9. He becomes secretive
One of the major hallmarks of wrongdoers is an uncanny ability to keep secrets.
In a marriage, partners deserve their privacy.
However, there should be no allowance for lies in marriage.
Not even the so-called “white lies.”
Secretiveness can destroy a marriage, especially when it involves emotional and sexual affairs.
If your husband is being unnecessarily secretive, it is either a sign that he has a crush on another woman or is a member of the CIA, just like in the movies.
10. He responds unusually when he sees her
From suddenly lighting up at the sight or her, to staring like one who is star stunned, to blushing silly like a teenager, your husband may be wearing his heart on his sleeves.
Have you noticed him reacting in these unusual ways at the sight of the said lady?
I hate to break it to you, but your husband is crushing on another woman.
Of course, there is the place of admiration, but this is different, as you can very well tell.
Final Words
If you can relate to most of the signs above, it is a sign that something is wrong with your husband and marriage.
However, you mustn’t panic and act out of fear if you want to save your marriage.
An excellent place to start is by talking to your spouse about your suspicions and both of you seeing a professional marriage counselor.
I hope you can overcome this challenge together.