If you are married, and you’re wondering if you’re good in bed.
You are wondering right.
It’s the desire of every good and selfless spouse to satisfy their partner.
The only way to tell whether you are good in bed or not is to ask your spouse directly.
If they give you a positive response, then it’s safe to say that you are indeed doing well.
One thing you need to understand is that if your partner has criticism about your performance, it doesn’t mean that anything is wrong with you.
Instead, use this feedback as an opportunity to improve and become better in bed.
Talk to your partner about their needs, desires, fantasies, and favorite styles so you can work together to make it a pleasurable experience for both of you.
In addition to communicating these needs, there are other ways to assess how good you are in bed.
Let’s pay close attention to the following signs to know better.
10 Signs You’re Good in Bed
1. You Communicate
You know how we always say communication is key in relationships?
Well, it’s a major key in the bedroom too.
Talking isn’t just for resolving fights or deciding where to eat dinner; it also plays a vital role when you’re getting intimate.
You don’t have to turn the bedroom into a talk show, but some back-and-forth can really help.
Ask your partner what they like or how they’re feeling.
Listen carefully to their responses.
Are they into what you’re doing?
Do they want you to speed up, slow down, or try something different?
By asking and listening, you can really tailor the experience to be pleasurable for both of you.
And don’t forget about body language and other non-verbal cues.
If your partner is pulling you closer, making eye contact, or moaning, take that as a good sign.
And there’s the post-action feedback.
A quick, “How was it for you?” or “What can we do differently next time?” can go a long way in making your future encounters even better.
So if you are really good at communicating this way, I give it to you; you are good!
2. You’re Confident
There’s no talking about being good in bed in the absence of confidence.
If you feel secure in your body and comfortable exploring different boundaries, you’re already light-years ahead of many people.
To really show confidence in bed, you have to own it.
Be conscious of how you move, your facial expressions, and the way you touch.
If you’re hesitant or shy about taking control or initiating something new, it’ll be difficult to really let go and have a good time.
But if you feel comfortable expressing yourself and directing the action (while still making sure your partner is having a good time, too), you can be sure that you’re probably doing something right.
3. You Pay Attention to Perception
It isn’t just about how great the physical sensations are; it’s also about how we perceive them.
Do you focus on the experience, or do you get lost in your own head?
Are you always worried about how you look or what your spouse is thinking?
Being good in bed means that not only are you connected to yourself but also to your partner.
Pay attention to their body language and movements.
Being mindful of these little moments will help ensure a better experience in the bedroom for both of you.
4. You Know What Pleases You
Being good in bed isn’t just about pleasing your partner; it’s also about knowing how to please yourself.
If you know what turns you on and what feels good, you can make sure that your own pleasure is taken into consideration.
Your partner will appreciate knowing that you have an understanding of what gets you going and how to get there, and they’ll likely learn a few things too.
After all, if you don’t understand yourself, how will another person understand you?
5. You Make an Effort to Set the Mood
It’s not just about the performance itself; it’s also about how you set the mood.
Do you go out of your way to make sure both of you are comfortable?
Are there candles, soft music playing in the background, or massage oils within reach?
You don’t need all these things to have an enjoyable experience, but they do add to the overall ambiance.
Also, setting the mood shows that you care about your partner’s experience and want them to feel special.
If you make an effort like this, I commend you.
6. You’re Open to Trying New Things
Variety, they say, is the spice of life, and it’s also the spice of the bedroom.
To be really good in bed, you must be willing to break out of your comfort zone and give new things a try.
This doesn’t mean that you have to do something outrageous, but openness to exploring is always appreciated.
Maybe it’s a certain position, or perhaps trying out lingerie/costumes?
Or maybe even introducing new toys into the bedroom?
You don’t have to be an acrobat or a wild animal, but you can’t be doing the same thing every time and expect to have fun.
7. You Take Your Time
Rushing through physical intimacy can be a real mood-killer, especially for us women.
We need time to warm up and really get into it, unlike most men who seem to be ready at the flip of a switch.
So if you take your time exploring each other’s bodies and don’t go straight for the main event, that’s a sign you’re good in bed.
I understand married life, especially with kids, can be hectic, and you have to rush through it sometimes.
But you can’t rush through it every time.
Nope.
8. You’re Not Selfish
It takes two to tango, and being good in bed has a lot to do with how you treat your partner.
If all you care about is yourself and what turns you on, then there’s no room for a real connection.
But if you’re focused on making sure your partner is having just as much fun as you are, then that’s a sign you’re great.
Quality intimacy isn’t just about pleasing yourself; it’s also about pleasing your partner.
That means taking the time to understand what their body needs and what they like and then incorporating those things into your bedroom routine.
9. You Can Laugh Off Awkward Moments
Nobody is perfect in bed, and there are bound to be awkward moments.
But being able to laugh off the moment or even turn it into a playful joke can make all the difference.
It takes a lot of vulnerability and trust to be able to do that, which is why it’s such a sign of true intimacy.
If you can laugh off embarrassing moments, it shows that you’re comfortable with yourself and your partner.
10. You Get Positive Feedback
If your partner goes out of their way to tell you how great you are in bed, then chances are, you’re pretty darn good.
Positive feedback from your partner is one of the easiest ways to know that you’re doing something right.
Sometimes it’s hard to tell whether or not your partner is enjoying themselves, so when they give you compliments about your performance, better believe them.
If any of these signs sound familiar, you’re good in bed.
And even if not all of them apply to you, there’s always room for improvement.
But regardless of your current skill level, the most important part is to enjoy yourself and have a good time.
Then, everything else will follow suit.
So next time you’re getting busy in the bedroom, remember these ten signs and keep trying your best.
Learning never ends.